The time we had a treat! 

The time we had a treat! 

Even though I managed to seriously annoy hubby yesterday (hehe), so much so that when i touched him i got a spark of electricity! And It really hurt!! 

we still went for a huge treat…

Like a hero though, I actually ate the whole thing! I did give amrit a piece though, just to be nice. 

The quesadila was so yummy and seriously filling. No need or room for dessert.

On the bad side though I was so full my stomach hurt for ages and I was shopping around rubbing my belly. Amrit said you look like a pregnant lady so may be you should stop.

I did refuse because I was in so much pain even though i was sticking my belly out far too much l, bloated n all. As we passed the chairs the seated people were looking someone will end up giving you their seat in a minute, hahaha. 

Finally I went home and had a gorgeous hot cup of miny tea and felt so much better. 

Lesson of the day: Don’t eat with your eyes! 

We have a cr-uffler!

Me and baby had just arrived home after doing the home shopping and we were both hungry. I decided to pack everything away and let baby play around on her mat with her toys in the lounge. Whilst I was unpacking I could hear her talking and playing around so went in to see what she was up to. 

I entered the room with my eyes on the area where I left her but it was empty, my heart was about to skip a beat when I saw her staring at me about a foot to left. She had noticed something she wanted to play with and somehow moved over to get it. 

”Ah baby, how did you get there I asked'”

Obviously she didn’t talk back but I did get an I’m impressed and you’ll never know type of giggle. I went back to the kitchen to sort our lunch out. We were having jacket potatoes with cottage cheese, organic of course with lots of salad. As that was getting done I went back to play with baby and as I walked in amazingly she had moved again and this time she was headed towards the coffee table.

This is when I realised that the first time she had moved was no coincidence and she has actually found a way of getting around. Completely excited and full of enthusiasm I ran in front of her saying ”Ajaa aaja” (come come) with the hand motions in full swing as well, however baby just looked at me with expressions that could be interpreted in so many ways but basically meant NO!

The microwave went beep and lunch was ready but before I went I thought I’ll try again and said ‘aaja baby’ and she then smiled and shook her head to say no. She grasped that one quite quickly, kids love saying no don’t they! 

As I was plating up our lunch and had literally turned to walk back into the lounge when I heard, Thud!, bang!….waaaaa! I ran in with our plates and saw baby lying on the floor crying with the air fan beside her. To my amazement she had made it to the side of the TV, reached up and pulled the fan down!

That’s when I knew our lives had turned a corner, because now is the new era of baby mobility. Once they enter that ‘travelling’ phase where they are able to move around in some way or another you suddenly realise your home has hazards every where!!

Thankfully she wasn’t hurt though and we continued on to enjoy our lunch whilst I thought about rearranging the whole house to make way for a new baby on the move!!

She now gets around by heading for a crawl but transitions in to a shuffle. That’s what I mean by cr-uffling, half crawling and half shuffling. Babies eh!

All babies are different and start moving in so many different ways, my toddler did rollie pollies. How did your baby move around? 

Our first all nighter

Our first all nighter

It’s almost 4:30am in the morning I think (I can’t even see the clock, the clock is a dot me right now. That’s how tired I am) and I’m still up pushing baby around the living room in her pushchair.

You see, I finally decided to wean her off breast milk and currently combine feeding with formula, however she now has her first bad cold, MummyKaur pulls sad face. Yes, I give all credit to breastfeeding because it did miracles for both of us. I mean we both escaped the winter flu and colds whilst toddler and DaddySingh were very poorly that’s how good breast milk is, not even a sniffle. I’m sure now though it’ll all happen now, haha.

Anyway, pushing baby around in her bugaboo (the best and most comfy pushchair ever!) because she is poorly and isn’t sleeping. No, seriously round and round in endless circles, number eights, squiggly circles, short spinning circles and back and forth to help her sleep. She has even managed to wake up her sister a few times, who is now crying and being gently calmed down by DaddySingh. As soon as baby knocks out though, I slip out for a cup of tea and that lasts only minutes (5 minutes we have made it so far) but she will definitely wake up again and so it will continue.

This has to be a first for her with a very bad cold, teething, blocked nose and cough. However not so much of a first for me and DaddySingh (who is by the way sound a sleep in that comfy bed…MummyKaur dreams of sleep!), we went through all this with toddler and a lot more of it but no matter how many times you do it, it’s always hard. Thank god for Chaa and Bessan (usually chocolate, in fact always chocolate but we just happen to have Bessan, so why not?!) Oh and blogging!

She did wake up again because of her blocked nose and we did continue our merry go round all through the night. She eventually slept though and both toddler and baby woke up at the same time, all happy like nothing happened.  

…Now where did I leave my happy mug?

Anyone else been up with their kids recently? How did you get through? 

Survival Guide: Gurdwara and Children

Survival Guide: Gurdwara and Children

We took the kids to the Gurdwara as usual at the weekend and everything was ok until about 5 minutes after we sat down in the Divaan. That’s when toddler decides she wants to run around and baby wants to play with toys the kids in front were playing with, must be the Prashaad effect. After numerous quiet attempts to settle toddler we shift to the Langhar hall. Now the Langhar hall is a big open space and kids love open spaces so as soon as you enter there is no stopping’ em. As we enter our toddler takes a big excited sprint into the middle of nowhere, turns to look at my unimpressed face whilst ushering them to come back but of course she just laughs and goes for another sprint followed by spins, more sprints and dodging all the sangat doing seva and having Langhar. Yep Prashaad gives you wings!

Finally DaddySingh (the husband) sits down to have his Langhar but toddler with ants in her pants can’t sit down so bops around whilst taking bites of roti. I come along with my Langhar to sit down and baby dives her hand in to the dhaal. DaddySingh grabs the arm whilst I dive for wet wipes and clean her hands before she gets a Mirchy mouth (now that would have been a nightmare). Before you know it toddlers up and about again and my husbands reminding her to be careful and just for a split second looks the other way to say hi to a friend when suddenly,

Crash! Cling-Clang!  Waaaaaa!

As i turn quickly I see our toddler on the floor crying with Langhar all over her and the floor and then baby had reached my Langhar and was going for the subji but I managed to quickly swipe her away, give her a bit of roti to keep her occupied and grab the wipes from my bag with out even looking for it to clean up the mess (mummy skills *lifts arm to show non existent biceps).

Whilst the Sangat looked over with a mixture of expressions we calmly addressed the issue and settled down our toddler. DaddySingh then took toddler out of the Langhar hall and I was left with the responsibility of eating all the left over Langhar (…no comment).

This happens to many of us, whether you go to the Gurdwara with the kids regularly or even just when invited to a wedding, all is going as well as can be expected and suddenly the kids go crazy but what do you do and how do you avoid these disasters? Well unfortunately toddlers and babies are unpredictable and don’t come with an off/mute button so there is no 100% guarantee they won’t play up in some sort of way, especially if you’re going to be at the Gurdwara for a while. However here are my tips on how to make it easier along the way:

Plan and Time
Try and plan ahead for when you are going as this will help you get everything organised in advance and minimise the craziness. 

Determine how you are going to get there because the journey is just as important. Stressed out, upset and tired children is not an ideal way to arrive at any event. 

Finally work out what time you will be going and arriving, will it be nap time, lunch time, do they need to go potty? All these add to the possibilities of a tantrum or misbehaviour.

Pack Snacks and a Drink
Whether you are going for a quick visit or an all day function, it’s always a good idea to have some good healthy snacks your children can have either on the journey or at the Gurdwara. Now there will always be Langhar, however children have a mind of their own so may play up and refuse the roti. There is always the situation where you’re in the middle of a prayer and the kids want food, if you have the snacks they can get away with having them and plus it’ll hopefully make them sit quietly, for a little bit longer anyway.

Take a quiet toy/activity 
This one is great for the younger children. Toddlers do have a short attention span and naturally have bags of energy and therefore unable to sit still for too long. So taking some toys or favourite activity with you can help them stay calm and sitting for a bit longer. Do makes sure these are quiet toys as you don’t want to interrupt the prayers or keertan.

Pack spare clothes
There will always be messy disasters so you can’t go wrong with having a spare outfit, doesn’t have to be the whole wardrobe and you can always leave it in the car or to one side until you actually need it.

Have Langhar early
Especially if you’re at a wedding or a prayer with a lot of Sangat, children can get tired and over stimulated and often we mistake this for misbehaviour. Sitting still is hard work for children, especially when they are very young so taking them to have Langhar or stretch out their legs is a great idea to help them stay calm.

Go freestyle
This is arguably the best option and I see many Penji’s and Aunty Ji’s do this all the time. You just go to the Gurdwara and not take anything with you, this will mean your children have no choice but to get stuck in to Gurdwara etiquette but if you don’t want to take the risk or you just know your kids won’t settle then not taking anything with you may not be an option.

Stay calm
Above all stay calm Mummys and Daddy’s, we all know it can be hard work and frustrating running around children and trying to get them to follow what we need to do at Gurdwara. If it gets all too much, take a second and grab some water and of course start again.

Of course regular visits will result in kids learning gurdwara etiquette quickly but don’t worry all parents go through it and all children get there eventually!

I hope you enjoyed my post and found my tips helpful. If you have any more tips to help all the Mummys and Daddy’s out there, please do share them below.

Disclaimer: Prashaad is the BEST!

MummyKaur is here!!

Oh hear we go (another mummy blog I hear you say!), I have had this blog set up for a while now and with so much to say i’ve been twitching to tap away but just didnt know where to start.

So whilst in the middle of so called “sleep training” my 8.5 month old, I thought lets get started. Well, at least it will help me extend the time before I give up and pick her up so that she doesnt wake up her big sister *smacks hand to forehead, whilst remembering I said I would never give in 🙈.

I’m a young (ish) British Sikh mum of 2 little girls (2yrs old and 8.5 months old) and just have to share my journey as a Sikh mum. Being brought up in a Punjabi Cultural/Traditional environment and now married to a husband (along with his family) that are more religiously/spiritually inclined there are, whilst balancing both worlds, plenty of events, experiences and thoughts I want to talk about because we just dont share them enough, right?!

So before I go and pick up my seriously defiant baby that wont sleep, I’m really looking forward to blogging and please do let me know what you think. I would love to hear from you.

Mwah,

MummyKaur 😘